FAQs

Frequently Asked Questions:
     1)  What do you prefer to be called, Damien or Koty?

I don't really have a preference either way, the only thing that I ask is if you are introducing me to someone new or someone that I do not know I would prefer that you use Damien.  Now I will definitely not cut you out as a friend, and I will not act like an ass, I just wanted to state what my preference is.
I also do want to make it clear that I want you to feel comfortable calling me whatever it is you choose to call me, but if I introduce myself as either or ask you to sign me up as either please respect my wishes.


     2)  What about pronouns?

This sort of connects with something I have noticed recently.  There is not some magical date in the future when I will be anymore of a man.  You can either see me as a boy/man now or you can't.  Just because I don't have the parts of a cisgendered man does not make me any less of a man.  With that having been said I also completely understand if you do not always use masculine pronouns for me.  Yes, please all the effort that you make know that it is greatly appreciated but if you slip up it is completely understandable!  I know that there is also not a magical switch that you can flip to just call me masculine pronouns.  Do what you can, when you can.  It is a completely different story however if you are purposely just calling me by female pronouns for the hell of it...if that is the case I hope you have a wonderful life but I will no longer be a part of it!


     3)  What happens when you decide this isn't your path, or this isn't right for you, or when you realize    you made a horrible mistake!?

You can worry about me all you want, but I know that this is not a mistake.  This is something that I can only decide for myself.  I am seeing a therapist, he would not have helped me find an endocrinologist if he did not think this is right for me.  My endocrinologist would not have suggested that we start hormones within the next two weeks if she did not think that this is right for me.  Both of those doctors have experience with transgender issues (this is not their first rodeo).  And personally I have nothing that I can compare this situation to to try and help explain my choice.  There are choices in everybody's lives, now contrary to a lot of ignorant people my choice was not whether to be a man or a woman, because that was not a choice the answer is that biologically I was born a female but I know that to be untrue.  The choice I had was whether to live as the honest me or live a lie.  I chose to live the only me I could, the honest one.