- If someone is FTM or MTF do not say that they don't look like a man or woman
- Honestly men all look different as do women, there is not one specific look that everyone has to follow to be the gender they know themselves to be
- Calling someone IT
- Personally I don't have an issue with it. I would rather you call me it then misgender me completely. Others however get VERY angry. This should depend on your relationship with the person that is transgender.
- DO NOT out someone
- Transgender people (escpecially if pre everything*) have a challenge in trying to get people to believe their true gender identity. If they have passed and actually have someone believing that they are the gender they know themselves to be then don't ruin that by outing them and making other people know that they were not born in the right body.
- The word "Tranny"
- There is a lot of debate about this in the community. Some people say that it should not be used at all. Others say it is okay to be used within the community itself. Personally I think everyone should be allowed to say it or no one should be allowed to say it. I totally understand trying to take back the word or not wanting people to use it with a negative connotation but by saying that one group of people cannot say it but we can just sort of defeats the idea of equality, don't you think.
- Gender Identity vs. Sexual Preference
- Do not assume they are the same thing. Someone who is transgender can be bi, straight, gay, pansexual, asexual or any other kind of sexual preference there could possible be.
- Last but not least Gender Reassignment Surgery
- Honestly it is none of your business if someone has gone through part of the surgery all of the surgery or none of the surgery. That does not make them any less of a man or woman. Genitalia does not make the gender and I cannot stress that enough.
* Pre everything means pre hormones and pre op which just means they have not had surgery yet
